Rather than stress about how hard it was to meet the perfect woman at the age of 30, I decided to forget about dating all together. When you start dating yourself, your mindset shifts. Stay up late and watch episodes of your favorite show on Netflix. Rather than define your own self-worth based on whether someone else swipes right at your photo or whether someone else wants to go home with you, you determine your own self-worth based on how you’re spending your time. As many others before me have done, I decided I needed to take a break from dating and focus on a goal other than love.Back at the beginning of my college career, I had attended a seminar and one of the speakers recommendations stayed with me.Now, more than ever before, I have come to a point in my life where I just have zero patience for certain types of men. Everyone has the right to do whatever the heck they want to with their free time.Part of the reason for this is that I’ve had much more dating experience, but I think more importantly, I have gained a certain degree of self-confidence after surviving college and transitioning into independent adulthood, and doing so relatively unscathed. Nevertheless, one would hope that by the time someone enters adulthood, they’d recognize that there are far more interesting things to do with every weekend than go to a club.” “Smiley, how am I supposed to meet someone when everyone attractive and dateable is already taken? It might help you stop worrying about what other people think of your sixth Tinder photo (or stress about whether you should even have a sixth Tinder photo — “who the hell has six Tinder photos?!” “Smiley, I can’t go to another wedding without a 1, it’s embarrassing! ”) and start thinking about how you want to spend your days.
“I’ll just delete my dating apps temporarily to take a break from online dating in general.That confidence makes me far less willing to put up with BS that I may have entertained in years past. I get it if you can’t handle shows, dance classes, comedy or museums after a draining week at work (being sarcastic here), but c’mon dude, at least try a lounge or wine bar. No Passport Man: If a man has reached his mid- to late-twenties (or older!For that reason, I have made this comprehensive list of “Men I’m Absolutely Tired of At 25″ to always remind myself of the guys I should try my hardest to avoid for the rest of my dating life. Pathological Liars: These men are not only extremely dangerous, but also ridiculously insecure. ), but somehow manages to have never had a passport, I’m moving on.Alone, against all odds, I would turn the situation around with the help of my trusty sidekick, Tonto. Every potential candidate I met was subject to my list of supposed "must-haves." And none of them measured up.The cycle of meeting someone, looking for compatibility and chemistry, not finding it for one reason or another, and starting all over again became depressing.