Yes, why is it that we all want the same thing—true love—and yet, ironically, we keep ending up with the same thing: the wrong one? It’s been a while since I’ve been in a relationship, but as I look back on most of the guys that I’ve dated, there are actually more things that they had in common than not. So, how can you know if you also have the habit of dating the same person over and over?
On one hand, they all were very smart, funny and for the most part, ambitious. On the other hand, they were passionate, but non-committal. So that you can stop doing the same thing and getting the same results? Here are five ways to know: You’re not paying attention to the facts.
That would be my last date before a self-imposed dating sabbatical. I had been like that for months, emotionally battered after my last relationship and closed off to connection.
If there isn’t a foundation of love, respect and commitment with the person you’re dating, giving more and doing nice things will not cause them to love you more, it’ll only result in you becoming increasingly attached.Why do great women pick people who treat them poorly? When you don’t get the love and attention you want, it may seem natural to give more.Smart, beautiful, incredible individuals – who give 110% to a man who in return, are only half-vested, part-time, and approach the relationship with a “me”, not “we” mentality. You invest more – only to find yourself more disappointed, depleted and feeling insignificant with each attempt to create/repair the connection. Jeremy Nicholson calls the principle of “sunk costs”.You know, how they look, how they approach us and how they initially make us feel.If we like what we see, we move forward to learn more.